Silly selfie in black plaid flannel with tongue out
Being serious all the time is overrated.

There’s no such thing as being an adult. Money is a tool to buy shelter, happiness and health. Few people have all their shit together.

We’re Millennials, one le$bean. Unmarried at 30. Alexa is the reason we wake up at a specified time and remember to eat our gummy vitamins to stave off malnutrition.

We’re a dissociative identity disorder (DID) system of 15.

We are the Darling System. I run this blog with a few of my alters because we practice functional multiplicity (FM), and part of healing from our trauma is actually being seen individually instead of as one collective person.

Since authenticity and transparency is important to me, we recently decided to directly come out as a system so we could share our story to connect with fellow systems and raise DID awareness. We hit a point wherein hiding wasn’t working anymore.

Topics include mental health, autism, internet doings, pop culture, our life, and occasional DID system ish. Jane, the host, is the primary author of this blog.

hej. gay! is our blog & it grows with us. Right now, it’s is our journey to whatever this new path for us being an overt DID system leads.

Hej. I’m Jane E. Darling โœจ

Toddler in pink romper holding a rake, surrounded by leaves
The body was probably 4 here.


  • love cats, but don’t yet have one because the deposit is $300. ๐Ÿ˜ฌ I am looking into the process of registering one as an emotional support animal, however, because that is what having a pet cat is for me. ๐Ÿˆ
  • am a lesbian. ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ
  • recently moved to Greenville, Texas — further into rural Texas than I wanted to, because low rent. ๐Ÿ˜ฉ
  • consider myself a book dragon ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ‰. I’m unlikely to read your recs, so please don’t. ๐Ÿ‘Œ
  • was not named by my parents. ๐Ÿคญ I am an alter in the Darling System. I know not entirely how this came to be my name.
  • have that agape love. Everyone tells me it’s a gift, but it honestly feels like a curse.
  • occasionally love learning different languages. I really love it because music, and tend to pick up romance languages from watching foreign films.
  • know who I am and what I want in my life. I’m not here for your inspiration porn.
  • don’t support the zero-waste movement, but I support the environment.
  • took a long time to realize I have the power to create the life I want to live, if I’d just reclaim my fucking autonomy. ๐Ÿ’ช These days, I enforce my boundaries and do not tolerate when people do not call me by my preferred name.

Behind the magic ๐Ÿ”ฎ

First and foremost, that adult is 300% green (affiliate link). ๐ŸŒฑ

dark grey "hej.gay!" with a soft glow atop a smaller white circle

This design marks the fourth time my good friend, Georgie, has designed my blog. For the fancy handwritten font, I’ve a commercial license (affiliate link).

Canva is how I create my graphics, including my logo. Non-credited image sources include Pexels, Sexual Alpha and She Bold Stock.

Plugins that help my blog function include Classic Editor, Site Kit by Google, ManageWP and Ultimate Book Blogger (affiliate link).

hej. gay! & that adult are part of the flannelfem.me network, which just redirects to this blog at the moment.

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